What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do

The real answer isn’t outside you—it’s already in you.

The Fog Feels Real

Trina was doing all the right things.

Thriving in her real estate business.
Raising two kids. Staying active.
From the outside, she looked solid.

But inside? She felt like she was drifting.
Not lost. Not failing. Just... off.

She couldn’t point to what was wrong.
Which made it worse.

When a big opportunity came her way—a team expansion, more responsibility—she froze.

Not because she didn’t care.
But because she didn’t know what mattered most anymore.

Sound familiar?

You’re not lazy.
You’re not indecisive.
You’re just misaligned.

Here’s the Real Problem

When you don’t know what to do, you default to looking outward.
You scroll. You ask for advice. You wait for clarity to show up.

But the answer you’re looking for?
It doesn’t come from the world.
It comes from your values.

What Core Values Actually Are

They’re not slogans.
They’re not inspirational quotes.
They’re your personal non-negotiables—the things that stay steady when everything else shifts.

Your values are what make a “yes” feel right and a “no” feel clean.

When the map fades, values take over.

How to Know You’re Out of Alignment

• You say yes to things that drain you

• You keep achieving, but feel disconnected

• You’re constantly busy, but directionless

• You question decisions that used to feel automatic

This isn’t a planning problem.
It’s not a discipline problem.
It’s a values problem.

When you haven’t named what matters most, everything starts to matter equally.
And that’s when burnout, confusion, and self-doubt creep in.

3 Questions to Clarify Your Core Values

You don’t need a quiz. You need truth.

1. What moments made you proud of how you showed up?
   What was alive in you? Grit? Loyalty? Courage?

2. When did you feel most off-track—and what was missing?
   Was it freedom? Honesty? Connection?

3. Whose life do you admire—and why?
   What values are they living that you crave?

Circle the words that feel true—not trendy.
The ones that ground you. The ones that wake you up.

Need help? Get the free Core Values Worksheet

How to Use Your Values Daily

Once you know them, live them.

Use your values when you:

• Make a decision

• Set boundaries

• Build your calendar

• Feel overwhelmed

• Start drifting again

Your values aren’t decorations.
They’re filters.

And when something doesn’t align—it’s a no.
When it does? You move forward with clarity.

What It All Comes Down To

You don’t need to figure out every detail of your future today.
But you do need to reconnect with what matters most.

And that starts with your values.

Because when you write your 10-Year Letter, you’re not just planning the next decade—
You’re aligning with the future you want to live.

So the next time you don’t know what to do?

Don’t spin.
Don’t scroll.
Start from your values.
Then write from your future.

That’s where real direction begins.

Next Step: Define Yours

Download the free Core Values List and Worksheet at 10yearletter.com/values
Circle what’s true. Narrow it down. Live it forward.

Because clarity isn’t found.
It’s chosen.